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2.7 Ambiguous Loss: Loss Without a Funeral (Part 2)

Summary

Life hit Pat and Tammy McLeod hard when their son Zach collapsed on a high school football field; he had sustained a severe brain injury. This accident led the family into the world of ambiguous loss. Ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or clear understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief.

“Type One: Occurs when there is physical absence with psychological presence. This includes situations when a loved one is physically missing or bodily gone.

Type Two: Occurs when there is psychological absence with physical presence. In this second type of ambiguous loss, a loved one is psychologically absent—that is, emotionally or cognitively missing.

Pat and Tammy McLeod serve as Harvard Chaplains for Cru, an interdenominational Christian ministry. Tammy is also the Director of College Ministry at Park Street Church in Boston. She received her MA in Spiritual Formation from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. Pat holds an MA in Theological Studies from the International School of Theology, and an MA in Science and Religion and a PhD in Practical Theology from Boston University. Pat and Tammy have been married for more than three decades and are parents to four grown children.

You can find and purchase Pat and Tammy’s book Hit Hard at:

HIT HARD

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Music: Mattioli Prelude by Martijn de Boer (NiGiD) (c) copyright 2015 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/NiGiD/50958 Ft: Mario Mattioli (Keyborg) — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tckvof/message

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2.6 Ambiguous Loss: Loss Without a Funeral (Part 1)

Summary

“Type One: Occurs when there is physical absence with psychological presence. This includes situations when a loved one is physically missing or bodily gone.

Type Two: Occurs when there is psychological absence with physical presence. In this second type of ambiguous loss, a loved one is psychologically absent—that is, emotionally or cognitively missing.

Pat and Tammy McLeod serve as Harvard Chaplains for Cru, an interdenominational Christian ministry. Tammy is also the Director of College Ministry at Park Street Church in Boston. She received her MA in Spiritual Formation from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. Pat holds an MA in Theological Studies from the International School of Theology, and an MA in Science and Religion, and a PhD in Practical Theology from Boston University. Pat and Tammy have been married for more than three decades and are parents to four grown children.

You can find and purchase Pat and Tammy’s book Hit Hard at:

HIT HARD

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2.5 Growing Up as Hidden Immigrants Overseas

Summary

Today our Panel is all “Hidden Immigrants.” Hidden Immigrants look alike but think differently. Most TCK’s are hidden immigrants when they go back to their “passport” culture but some are also hidden immigrants in both their passport and host cultures.

Panelists: Dana Jackson, David Rojas, and Luke Burch with Elizabeth Norvell as your interviewer

Music: Wholesome by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/5050-wholesome License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

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2.4 Growing Up as First and Second Generations

Summary

You don’t just have to live overseas to be a TCK. Our panel today had a TCK experience because their parents lived in other countries and they understand what it is like living in between worlds.

Panelists: Anthony Lee, Makda Negusse, and Sophia Abraham with Elizabeth Norvell is the interviewer.

Music: Bossa Noir for Nights by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/61806 Ft: Martijn de Boer (NiGiD), Javolenus

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2.3 TCK and Sexuality

Summary

Greg Coles spent fifteen childhood years as a TCK in Indonesia, on the island of Java. He moved back to the United States for college, where he studied communication, literature, and music, and recently finished a PhD in English. He now works as an author, speaker, and worship leader at his church in central Pennsylvania. His first book, Single, Gay, Christian, tells the story of his own journey through questions of faith and sexual identity. His second book, scheduled to release this coming February, draws heavily from his TCK experience and is called No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation.

“Gay” Vs. “Same-Sex Attraction:” A Dialogue between Greg Coles and Rachel Gilson: https://centerforfaith.com/blog/gay-vs-same-sex-attraction-a-dialogue

Website to purchase Greg’s book Single, Gay, Christian: https://www.gregorycoles.com/book-single-gay-christian/

Website to purchase Greg’s book No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation: https://www.gregorycoles.com/book-no-longer-strangers/

Music: funkyGarden by Jeris (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Noncommercial Sampling Plus license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/VJ_Memes/61356 Ft: airtone, SackJo22, Analog By Nature

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2.2 Understanding Identity as Multi-ethnic (Part 2)

Summary

We continue our conversation about what it is like growing up in Multi-Ethnic Families with a new set of panelists. Come and join our panelists in understanding their ethnicities during the turbulent year of 2020 and beyond.

Panelist: Ricky Magoncia, Joabe Andrade II, and Alexius Alldrin, with Interviewer Jonathan Walthour

Check out Joabe Sena Anrade tells his story on TCK Tales and what helped him face his demons and become fully whole: https://anchor.fm/t-c-k-tales/episodes/007-Facing-Your-Demons-e218md/a-a10mk3j

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2.1 Understanding Identity as Multi-ethnic (Part 1)

Summary

What is your favorite and least favorite thing about being multi-ethnic? Do you feel like you have to pick an ethnicity and how has family played into your understanding of that? Come and join our panelists in understanding their ethnicities during the turbulent year of 2020.

Panelists: Alexis Salazar, Jamie Perry, and Kevin (KP) Patao with Jonathan Walthour as your interviewer.

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1.4 Missionary Kids and Identity

Summary

How do you determine your identity? For the cultures you identify with which one do you identify with the most? What does your passport country mean to you? What does your host country (where you grew up in) mean to you? How do you identity yourself currently? If that is different from in the past, how has that changed over time?

Panelists:

Paul Snider: grew up in Jamaica until college; parents are from the USA; currently directs Cru’s ministry for Missionary Kids, MK2MK.

Hannah: grew up in Romania the first 10 years of life and then Hungary till 18 years old; family from South Carolina, USA; currently in Florida, USA Sarah: grew up in Slovenia from 6 to 12 years old; lived in Colorado, Illinois, and Ohio in the USA; went back as a missionary to Slovenia for two years and moving to Central Asia

Interviewer:

Elizabeth Norvell: missionary kid who grew up in the Philippines and USA; currently life in transit location wise.

MK2MK Based in Orlando, MK2MK serves missionaries around the world by discipling MKs and encouraging the whole family. MKs and other TCKs are involved through mission trips, conferences, and our ongoing local and virtual communities. You can go to mk2mk.org to learn more. There you’ll find info on upcoming summer missions, resources for parents, kids, and teenagers, as well as links to their social media and blog.

PolVan Cultural Identity Model https://tckstudent.weebly.com/uploads/2/4/3/5/24353789/2006380.png?351

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1.3 Family Relationships

Summary

How have you felt like you don’t fit in with your family especially related to culture? If you had a TCK experience with your siblings, how has your experience differed from theirs? Have you ever felt like you related to your TCK friends more than your family? How has the CCK/TCK experience manifested itself in family transitions?

Panelists:

Kristen Caughlan (Multiethnic): father originally from Japan; spent 17 years in Japan; 2 biological and 2 International Adoptee children; Lives in Washington, USA

Nichole Riley (Cross Cultural Kid: Bi-cultural): father raised by Irish grandmother; married a Polish American; lives in Indiana, USA

Kevin Chang: life trajectory: Taiwan-USA-Taiwan- South Africa-Taiwan-USA; lives in Oregon, USA; soon moving to Taiwan; parents currently in Denmark

Interviewer:

Elizabeth Norvell: missionary kid who grew up in the Philippines and USA; currently life in transit location wise.

Music: Jehovah Jireh, Connor Caughlan (https://www.facebook.com/connor.caughlan/)

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1.2 Transitions and Losses

Summary

How much did your expectations of what transition was going to look like match what actually happened? What did you feel you were gaining and losing in transition? What kinds of emotions did you have in preparing for your transition? What did you feel before/during/after? Join Elizabeth, Amy, Sharon, and Susan in their adventures of transitions and losses.

Panelists:

Susan Hu: born and raised in USA till sixth grade; moved to Shanghai, China for six years; currently lives in New Jersey;

Amy Schulte: Originally from USA; grew up in Palestine and France; just moved back from three years in Italy; currently lives in Saint Louis, MO;

Sharon Kumar: born in Oman; family originally from India; moved to USA when 12 years old; currently lives in Boston, MA.

Interviewer:

Elizabeth Norvell: missionary kid who grew up in the Philippines and USA; currently life in transit location wise.

Music:

East to West, Casting Crowns

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